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How our child’s wish list is made

Janka’s birthday, Santa Claus Day and Christmas are right around the corner. The relatives and grandparents are already asking what they should buy her and we created a list.We like to discuss with the relatives what presents they should and shouldn’t buy for Janka. She has some stuffed animals but she isn’t really interested in them, so it’s unnecessary to buy her more. She’s too young to play with dolls and T-shirts with silly sayings make both me and my husband cringe. For example, in the summer, she got a bodysuit with daddy’s duties printed on it. And daddy’s duties are the following: drinking beer and playing football (obviously, it’s relevant in case of an eight months old baby girl). Burping, diaper changing, feeding and rocking baby to sleep are of course, mom’s responsibilities. Neither of us found it funny.

TShe also got items of clothing that I was just unable to pair with other items of clothing so that it would look nice or the piece of clothing was ugly and the family can’t really get the sizing right. For instance, Janka got size 80 short-sleeve T-shirts and shorts when she was wearing only size 68. She can wear the T-shirt now that she’s ig enough for them and they fit because if she wears a bodysuit under the T-shirt and I also put a cardigan on her, it’s wearable. Unfortunately, the shorts were a waste of money. In order to avoid such problems, we emphasised that no-one should buy clothes for Janka. Anyway, she has so many clothes that I can hardly close her drawer and there are clothes on almost all her hangers when all of her clothes are washed and ironed. So we wouldn’t like to get clothes, dolls and stuffed animals.

However, our kid likes to “repair” things. She examines everything and likes to play with toys the smaller elements of which can be put into the bigger elements and she also likes musical toys. I chose toys with several functions, so she will be able to use them for longer and we don’t have to keep looking for space for the stuff she gets bored of too soon.

This is how we made the list: we picked two shops that can be found in our town and my husband’s hometown as well, so it will be easy for both sets of grandparents and my aunt-in-law to purchase the presents they choose. There were six toys on our list. I sent two URL links to my aunt-in-law who picked one present for Janka that day. The one she didn’t choose and another one I sent to my parents. A few days later they also picked one. The link of the toy one nobody chose and another one will be sent to my husband’s parents by my husband and they also pick one. By doing so, not only do the relatives have a choice, but we can also influence what our daughter gets.

Janka is going to receive three presents for Christmas. It might not sound a lot, but we don’t want her to think that celebrations are all about getting a truckload of presents anyway. Furthermore, we think that it’s better for her to have fewer but better quality toys and ones she loves to play with than a lot of poor quality ones she gets bored of soon.

What do you think about this method? What would you do differently?

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22 Comments

  • The Momgineer

    For my kiddos I usually get them one or two presents because between my mom and grandmother they get plenty! I can’t keep them from going overboard lol.

    • blonderia

      Thanks for your comment. It’s good to read how it’s going in other families. I can be prepared. 🙂

  • Zara McIntosh

    I really like and agree with your method. I often send ideas or a certain shops to look in to relatives as it not only helps them but gives me more control of the presents being received,
    Zara xo

  • Jade

    This is a really good way of doing it! And I think it’s great that you are teaching your kids that Christmas doesn’t necessarily mean loads of presents. Great post xx

  • Erin Cotter

    Awesome post. I think this is a really good method. Also, I am recommending this site called Dreamlist for you because it could be a neat thing you could provide for the grandparents come christmas time. You can create experiences you want to save for, and other things. It is supposed to be interactive. I’ve just learned about this website and havent done too much with it yet. But I think it may be a great tool for you! I’m not close with anyone so it wouldn’t be much help for me right now, but i plan to use it more in the future. https://www.dreamlist.com

    • blonderia

      Thanks for the link. I’ve checked the website out and it’s great! I’ll share it with my husband. 🙂

  • Emma Blogger (A Booking Good Read)

    This is a great way of doing it, I’ve got two boys and I never know what to do with other people buying them things 💕

  • Sophie

    It’s nice that you’re trying to teach her the value of the holidays and gifts rather than spoiling her, I’m sure it will make her more appreciative when she’s older. Also great that you’re not going to be stuck with a load of stuff you hate!

    Sophie
    wwww.glowsteady.co.uk

  • Rainbowimagine (@Rainbowimagine)

    Myself am not a parent yet, but I’ve been doing some thinking on how I’d want to spend mine with kids.
    I think its good you empathize that it’s not all about pressies.
    For me it’s about being together. I wasn’t really raised with a religion, so I thought I could make that the focus for mine. Spending time together, a nice diner and a few gifts. I also thought we could collect toys and give it to families who a tight on money for christmas to celebrate a more giving thing. Of course these are values I wouldn’t only do on christmas though. The being together, sharing the love and giving aspect would be a part of my future family at all times.

    • blonderia

      When I started thinking about what value we should teach her, the idea of giving came up, too. This year, we’re going to participate in the Operation Christmas Child campaign. I’ve already filled two shoe boxes with presents and my daughter and I are going to take it to the office where they’re collected. She won’t understand anything, I know, but I want to start teaching her meaningful traditions as early as possible.

  • Amii

    I’m totally with you on slogan tshirts. I’m so picky with clothes though. The one thing we do is layer. Long sleeve tops under short sleeve tops and dresses. Tights under shorts. We love longevity of wear once they stop growing out of clothes every 5 minutes.

    I also think 3 presents is enough. We do 4 presents (want need wear read) and a stocking of useful things. Then we ask family for money towards one big gift or towards activities/a day out. I’m super conscious of not getting more things.

    We also do a reverse advent calendar instead of a gift calendar/chocolate calendar. Each day you put something into a box to donate – we do foods for a local food bank. Then either just before Christmas, or just after for those experiencing the long month of January, we donate the box.

  • Ms Via

    I always give my kids what ever they need and explain them the importance of money and how much we should spend on a particular thing or it is a waste. Accordingly the kids start to decide whether they want anything or they need anything. :-). They never seem to want anything that they don’t really need. 🙂
    I hope I make sense.

  • Kymberlee Faye

    I really enjoyed reading your post. I do not have children yet, but I like the idea of really thinking of what your child would need. I also like the idea of quality versus quantity! Great post 👍

  • John Beaver

    Hi Rita,
    I wanted to add https://www.wishsite.net as a nice tool to create wish lists. Of course it’s free and the best part is that you don’t even need a registration. My whole family uses it for Christmas etc.

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